I hope you didn’t think that 2019 would come to an end and I wouldn’t blog! Keeping things completely real… I am actually writing this blog on December 30th because we are throwing a little New Year’s Eve party today with some of our friends (including the bae) soooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo I basically won’t be in any shape or form to write eloquently nor with a proper message and so I am blogging a day early. That’s right people, when you get older you get wiser…lol.
As I thought about what I wanted to say for my last official blog of 2019 – sorry not to side track but how CRAZY is it that we are done with another decade…like WTF! Ok back to the blog. As I thought about my message to close off 2019 I thought to myself, should I talk about lessons learned, or the importance of staying focused on self -care, or discovering your purpose and/or your why. And while those are all topics that are near and dear to my heart, I have opted to focus my last blog on Living Your Plan.
You see I am a planner. Ask anyone who knows me, while I have no issues going with the flow, part of that flow had to be scripted with a plan that includes pertinent information such as timeline, anticipated cost, impact, desired outcome, etc. Personally one of the best things that was ever created for someone like me was an excel spreadsheet and a mommy calendar (with the stickers!)…lol. I mean how many times have we heard people say “you have to have a plan” or “what is your plan”. I mean shit – sometimes people want a plan to develop The Plan – it’s just how we are wired and taught. The idea that success can be achieved by just going by the seat of your pants sounds unorthodox and ludicrous. BUT…what if the outcome, impact or execution of a successful plan wasn’t the creation of it – but instead living it and detailing the steps and inputting the information as you actively executed the plan.
MetoMoi has evolved out of me stepping away from my traditional strategy of developing a plan and instead living it and allowing my encounters, interactions and connection to my deeper self dictate my path. For some what I am saying may make sense and for others you are rolling your eyes and thinking this is a sack of shit, but I employ both perspectives to at least hear me out.
Living your plan is not just about your business, but legit about life. If I were to take a poll right now and ask my friends, family or people who follow me on social media what their goal(s) are for 2020, it may sound a little something like this:
My plan is to:
Lose weight
Exercise more
Read more
Connect with friends/be more social
Take a class/course in an area of interest
Eat better
Take more “me time”
Start a business
Leave my partner (yes I said it!)
And the list goes on. The issue here is not the actual activities that I have listed (or those that I negated to mention) but rather the time spent ‘planning’ to do those things, rather than just literally doing it. How many times have you heard someone say, or even yourself say – “it’s not that easy to just up and do it” – and I challenge those who say that by saying why isn’t it that easy? Do you realize that most of things that we plan on doing or hesitate to do are legit the things that are fundamental to our mental, spiritual, emotional, psychological, sexual and social well being and yet we deem it necessary to plan for the right time to fit these things in as we meet the needs and wants of others on a continuum. Let that shit sink in for a minute. You are actively thinking about and planning to do something that serves your mental, physical, spiritual, psychological, sexual (we gonna get into this top for 2020 people…sorry muma…lol) and social well being. Sounds a little ridiculous doesn’t it. Trust me – I am not coming from a place of judgement. I am coming from a place of emancipation – cause lord knows I was there. How could I start a business with a full-time job and three active kids? What would I have to give up in order to make this happen? Was this the right time? Was I taking on too much?
I asked myself those questions for years, and it wasn’t until I closed my eyes that one fine day in January and jumped in head and heart first that I began to write my plan. If anyone were to ask me at this very moment what the future holds for MetoMoi – straight up I can’t tell you other than expect great things. Not because my plan says so, but because I desire it to be.
I truly believe that the things I have done to date and the people that I have met or connected with would not have been had I created a plan that more than likely would have scoped the natural evolution of success out. If we don’t have the capacity to guarantee the things we put in our plan, why would we limit ourselves to the things that we put in our plan. Living your plan creates the space for shit to just happen (whether good or bad because there is a take-away from all situations). And when shit happens, life happens. And when life happens – you ARE living your life by design.
Now listen, don’t go back to work on January 6th talking about your just gonna let shit happen and see what plan derives. Straight the fuck up that shit will get you fired! Let’s apply this process to YOUR desires, dreams, aspirations and goals!
I also want to be clear. I by NO MEANS am saying that we shouldn’t have goals and things that we want to work towards. Of course you should, because the truth is we can’t necessarily achieve everything we desire to achieve in one shot – so go ahead and make that list of desired outcomes or goals for 2020! All I am saying is don’t limit yourself by creating a plan for your desired outcomes that doesn’t leave you open to what the universe has in store for you.
I am excited people. Not just because we are entering into a whole new decade. But because the there is no limit to what we can achieve. I am overwhelmed with excitement and bursting with energy as I gear up for an exciting year. And while my hand is soooooooooooooooo desiring to grab a pen and paper to create my itemized list, I will take my own advice and simply wait for right time to document those achievements!
Happy New Year Everyone.
